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How to Energize Big Change with a Blissful Little Pause

When you’re making a significant change, it takes sustained energy and focus. This can be exhausting. When pursuing change, motivation is an essential ingredient. However, it’s not enough. Sometimes, you’ll need to act even when you don’t feel like it and your motivation is low or non-existent.

Taking action through small, consistent steps will facilitate the change you desire.

There is another aspect to proactive change that goes beyond desire, motivation, and action. It’s recognizing the powerful and energizing effect a brief pause has.

Last week, I wrote about capacity. The pause is connected to that idea. Consider how much stamina it takes to make a change in your life. Along that journey, which could take days, months, or years, the endurance needed won’t be sustainable without rest cycles.

Clients’ Organizing Goals

I admire my clients’ dedication to pursuing their organizational goals and making changes in their lives. There are weeks when things flow easily for them. At other times, it’s more challenging to activate and move forward. They don’t give up. I support them as they navigate the change process. They balance the intense periods of action with taking breaks. They’ll step away briefly and then return.

The power of their pause is noticeable. After their hiatus, clarity, energy, and determination return. The downtime creates space to breathe, rejuvenate, and refocus.

 

My Big Changes

You may recall how the pandemic influenced significant changes for my organizing business, Oh, So Organized! In 2020, after almost thirty years of working in-person with clients, I pivoted to offer virtual services only. My organizing company helps overwhelmed individuals challenged by disorganization get unstuck and organized with nonjudgmental, personalized one-on-one sessions, workshops, and publications.

I’ve led workshops for decades. Most of those were hosted by other companies or industry associations. However, in 2022, I started sponsoring my own workshops. I’ve hosted four since then and plan to offer two more this year. It’s been a positive change that I’m still exploring.

In the first quarter of 2024, I had four workshops scheduled, one of which I hosted. I’ve already given three and was invited to present next month for Denise Wenacur’s Design Lab. These changes have been exciting yet intense because of the deadlines.

To sustain the pursuit of the changes you seek, step away from doing to recharge.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVOP™

A Gentle Pause

Do you remember I mentioned how my clients balance their change pursuits with taking breaks? Well, I’m no different. I integrate breaks, too. And luckily, in the last few weeks, we’ve had some beautiful snowfall in the Hudson Valley. You may wonder how snow and pausing connect.

These particular snows were incredibly peaceful, covering the landscape in white and making the quiet feel even quieter. I loved pausing to watch the snow steadily fall to the ground. It was meditative and made me feel calm and relaxed. Watching the gently floating snowflakes encouraged me to appreciate the moment and temporarily disengage from my projects. Observing was enough of a break to help me reset, energize, and prepare for the next step.

Weird Facts shared this idea about the quiet a fresh snow brings:

“Fresh snow absorbs sound, lowering ambient noise over a landscape because the trapped air between snowflakes attenuates vibration. That’s why it gets so quiet when it snows.”

Don’t underestimate the power of a pause. To sustain the pursuit of the changes you seek, step away from doing to recharge. Pause and see the snow descend, take a coffee break, or go away for a few days. You’ll be happy you did.

What type of pause benefits you? How does it help you pursue the changes you want?


Help is Here

If you are in the midst of change and want assistance, I’m here to help. Please email me at linda@ohsoorganized.com, call 914-271-5673, or click here to schedule a Discovery Call. Change is doable, especially with support.

 
How to Make New Favorite Ideas From Organizing Conference Empower Helpful Possibilities
How to Make New Favorite Ideas From Organizing Conference Empower Helpful Possibilities

Professional development and education are some of my top priorities. I continually invest in learning to understand, nourish my curiosity, grow, and better help people. This past week, I attended the Institute for Challenging Disorganization’s (ICD) conference, celebrating its 20th anniversary. I’m an ICD past president (2014-2016) and have been a member of this stellar educational association for 19 years.

Due to the pandemic, the conference was virtual. Using the Remo platform, people attended from eleven countries around the world. We had four days of workshops presented by leading experts with networking time with colleagues new and old. Possibilities, hope, compassion, and a zest for learning and sharing permeated the sessions and conversations.

In my effort to assimilate a small portion of what I discovered, I distilled ideas from 11 sessions and 20 plus pages of my notes to share with you. I couldn't include everything, so I focused on sharing incredibly inspiring concepts full of possibilities

 

Favorite New IDEAS to Empower Possibilities

1. Power of Reframing

Our first speaker was Dr. Edward (Ned) Hallowell, an expert on ADHD, founder of Hallowell ADHD Centers, podcast host, and author of 20 books, including his newest ADHD 2.0. His presentation was so uplifting and poignant. I became emotional several times. He focused on the gifts accompanying ADHD, such as being creative, intuitive, curious, entrepreneurial, intelligent, and original. Dr. Hallowell has ADHD and has devoted his life to helping people with ADHD “develop a vision of greatness.” He believes that everyone is capable of more than they think they are, can combat negative self-talk, and develop good self-care hygiene.

He reminded us “what matters is the striving, not the doing or accomplishing.” The “victory is loving the game.” He spoke about the importance of connection and having supportive people to protect and believe in you. 

Hallowell shared the three defining hallmarks of ADHD, which are distractibility, impulsivity, and hyperactivity. He prefers focusing on the positive flipside- seeing distractibility as curiosity, impulsivity as creativity, and hyperactivity as energy. At 71, he said he was “happy to have a turbo pack on his back.”

When it comes to organizing and reaching his goals, he strives for “well enough organized.”

If you reframe your perspective, what is possible?

 

  

2. Living Your Strengths

As humans, we seek to understand ourselves and others. Dr. Ryan Niemiec, Education Director at the VIA Institute on Character, author of 10 books, and award-winning psychologist, shared that understanding your character strengths is essential for building your well-being, managing adversity, and increasing happiness. What would be possible if you lived using your strengths and appreciated the strengths of those around you?

In 2003, the VIA Survey of Character Strengths was created. The extensively researched survey emerged from the field of positive psychology. It focuses on 24 universally valued (cross-cultural) character strengths such as hope, curiosity, and gratitude. It has been taken by 16 million people and continues to be taken every 10 seconds. Click here for your free VIA assessment (it takes about 10 minutes) and discover your top signature strengths.

Niemiec made several key points: no strength is better than another, all 24 strengths matter, and they are in all of us. Your top strengths represent the positive parts of your personality, which can change over time. Our strengths reflect our identity, produce positive outcomes for ourselves and others, and contribute to the collective good.

I’ve taken the survey three times over the past ten years, and I’ve seen some shifts in my top five strengths. With the most recent survey, my top strengths are love, gratitude, perspective, appreciation of beauty & excellence, and humor.

I’d love to know more about you. After taking the survey, please share your top five strengths in the comments below if you feel comfortable doing so.

What matters is the striving, not the doing or accomplishing.
— Dr. Edward Hallowell

3. Designing Your Space

Andrea de Pavia, MA, architect, urban planner, author, professor, and founder of NeuroAU, shared her expertise and insights on NeuroArchitecture. This interdisciplinary field connects cognitive science, architecture, design, and urbanism, focusing on “the brain, behavior, and their interconnection with the physical environment.” De Pavia explained how our spaces affect our physiology, making changes in the brain and body. Her goal is to “make science-based choices to improve the environment” and not design solely based on creativity or aesthetics. 

With sensation transference, elements such as light and sound can affect how things taste, your perception of others, and your memories. Perceptual fluency relates to how easy or challenging it is to be in a particular space. In a “fluent space,” it will be easier to process and experience cognitive restoration. Our physical environment can affect stress levels and health. Lack of multisensory coherence can impair perception and attention, deplete mental resources, and impair decision-making. Imagine being in a cluttered space (whatever ‘cluttered’ means to you.) Notice how you feel. Are you calm, relaxed, anxious, or agitated? 

Our space can help or impair our cognitive restoration. De Pavia shared several ways to design and organize spaces to decrease stress and save mental resources, such as incorporating nature. Include pictures of nature, use natural light, add plants (real or not,) water features, and natural materials. This is known as biophilic design.

Don’t underestimate the importance of windows and natural light. Uncover the windows and position yourself closer or facing them. Seeing the sky (day or night) helps control our circadian rhythm, which affects our biological clock. It syncs our body with the environment and affects our energy during the day and quality of sleep at night. Natural light supports the production of serotonin, a hormone that stabilizes our mood, feelings of well-being, and happiness.

I often write about organizing homes and offices to support who you are and what you do. This science-backed research reinforces the importance of decluttering, creating calm spaces, and being in environments that allow us to restore, reset, and be productive. What would be possible for you as you imagine being in a cognitively supportive space?


Possibilities are all around as we look at ways to reframe our perspective, live using our top strengths, and create spaces that support our minds and bodies. So much is possible. Which ideas resonate with you? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 
 
3 Little Lessons From the Forest That Inspire Organizing Possibilities
3 Little Lessons From the Forest That Inspire Organizing Possibilities

Recently, I enjoyed savoring a beautiful book, Forest Bathing Retreat – Find Wholeness in the Company of Trees by Hannah Fries. There are captivating images, poetry, and prompts that invite you to appreciate the forest’s gifts. As someone that often walks in the woods, the contents deeply resonated with me.

Three ideas captured my attention because they opened my thoughts to possibilities. I imagined some of these in an organizing context and how they could inspire a positive shift in thinking.

For many people, getting and staying organized is a challenge. It can be helpful to link a seemingly unrelated concept to that struggle. That connection can facilitate an “ah-ha” moment or possibility, which helps you get unstuck. I hope one of these ideas will be beneficial to you.

 

 

3 Little Lessons from the Forest That Inspire Organizing Possibilities

1. Mast Year

Acorns.

There have been many autumns where it seems as if our oak trees drop more acorns than usual. You can’t walk without stepping on them or hearing them ‘plunk’ as they hit the ground. At those times, I asked my husband if he noticed any difference. He assumed that we probably just didn’t remember how many acorns there were the previous fall and that it was “nuts as usual.”

As it turns out, once every two to five years, nut trees do produce massive amounts of nuts. These are called “mast years.” Fascinating that all the oaks, beeches, or hickories in a region have identical boom years. It’s a scientific mystery why mast years happen or why the trees in an area have the same cycle. There are plenty of nuts to feed the animals during a mast year, with enough remaining to grow new trees.

How does a mast year relate to organizing? Consider if this will be a mast year for you. Will you let go of the extraneous, as in the extra nuts? The abundance of nuts is like the stuff in your life. The trees share the nuts with animals and release the extras so they can thrive. Will you release the things you no longer need and donate or gift them to people who can use them? Is this your season to let go? Is this your time to create space for what matters so you can grow and thrive?

 

 

2. Phytoncides

Walk in the woods.

Have you experienced the therapeutic effects of being in the woods? Studies have been done about shinrin-yoku or “forest bathing,” the Japanese tradition of spending time in the forest and experiencing it through your senses. This improves your immune system and a general sense of well-being.

The phenomenon is more than just psychological. There is a physical process where trees release phytoncides into the air, which are antimicrobial chemicals. They protect the trees against harmful insects and germs. The phytoncides are similar to essential oils or aromatherapy. Conjure up the wonderful scent of cedar, which is the result of a phytoncide. 

Breathing in phytoncides boosts your immune system by stimulating the white blood cells responsible for fighting off tumors and viruses.

How do phytoncides connect to organizing? Think about the restorative and immune-boosting properties of being in the woods. Now imagine your home. Is it a place that promotes calm? Do you feel supported and relaxed there? Or, are you stressed and overwhelmed by clutter or ineffective systems? What would it look and feel like if your home supported your well-being, like a forest does, phytoncides and all? You deserve to live in a healing, supportive, and clutter-free environment.

Do you need assistance? Learn more here about how I support my virtual organizing clients find the calm they deserve. I’m here to help.

Create space for what matters and you will thrive.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVPO™

3. Frondescence

Fall leaves.

Say that one three times fast. This word was new to me. Hannah defines frondescence as “the time at which a plant or tree unfurls its leaves.” I love that there is a word for this unfolding and blossoming. This natural process is more often observed in spring and summer, although I’ve noticed unfurling in fall too. Have you ever watched a tight bud open slowly to reveal its magnificently colored blooms? Or, have you observed a tree that transforms its bare branches to leafy new growth? 

How does frondescence pertain to organizing? Think of frondescence as that awake, aware, and fully alive state of being. You feel fresh with wonder and possibilities. When we focus on what’s important, have systems that support us (including people and processes), and have cleared the unnecessary from our lives, we are free to unfurl. We become open, aware, and engaged.

Clutter can hold us back. It can deplete our mental and physical energy and erode our self-esteem. What do you need to unfurl, open up, and get organized? Possibilities are available to you.

 

When we shift our perspective, possibilities come into view. Which forest lessons resonate with you? Do any apply to an organizing challenge you or someone you know is experiencing? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 
 
5 Positive Ways to Easily Practice Mindful Organizing in Your Life

Mindfulness is a quality of being that we can bring to all aspects of our lives. It encompasses an awareness of what we are doing or experiencing in the present moment in a nonjudgmental way. Most often, I write on my computer sitting inside at my desk. It’s a beautiful, quiet place where I’m surrounded by my favorite colors and images. Today, however, on this gorgeous fall day, I decided to write outside. My senses engaged as I listened to the leaves rustling in the breeze, felt the crisp air making goosebumps on my skin and delighted in the colorful leaves and bright red berries punctuating the dogwood trees. 

What does this have to do with mindful organizing? As I mentioned at the start, mindfulness is a quality we can bring to everything, including organizing, writing, or observing. So while mindful organizing doesn’t necessarily mean working outdoors, being aware of your environment can be one of the ways to practice mindful organizing. There are others, too, which I will share with you.

 

5 Ways to Practice Mindful Organizing

1. Why does it matter?

You might have watched episodes of The Home Edit, Marie Kondo’s Sparking Joy, or Hot Mess House. Maybe you saw an ad for The Container Store or California Closets. The priority of these shows and advertisements is getting and being organized. It’s essential to ask the question. Is getting organized your priority? Or, is getting organized your priority, but not right now? 

We can be easily influenced by other people’s priorities. And of course, if getting organized is important to you, it’s great to know! If not, lose the guilt and let that idea go. But if you want to get more organized, be mindful and clear about your why. Clarifying the why will determine your progress and success. 

  

2. How can I get organized when I’m so busy?

Like you, I’m in the only-have-24-hours-a-day club. Most of us have full lives, so how can we integrate the time needed to organize along with our other responsibilities? Introducing mindfulness into the mix is especially helpful here. Review your schedule to find “white space” which you can allocate to your organizing goals. Aim for mindful time and energy management.

I’ve been working on a long-term project to ‘live with less.’ I commit 15-60 minutes each day to do something. Some days I spend less time, like the day I released a single object (goodbye ironing board!), and other days I work for more than an hour. It’s a low-pressure approach that’s working well. This could be a manageable approach for those that are time-poor or don’t have a pressing deadline. Or, you might choose something else. Many of my virtual organizing clients work with me for an hour each week and work independently between sessions. They love the short, productive sessions, accountability, support, and check-ins. The point is you have many options. Your organizing path, pace, and the process will be unique to you.

 

3. How do I get started when I feel so overwhelmed?

When we’re overwhelmed, and in a stressful situation, our sympathetic nervous system engages. This is the “fight or flight” mode. Noticing that you’re overwhelmed means you already have an awareness of what you’re experiencing. Use this mindful state to shift from stress to calm. Try a simple breathing technique to activate the parasympathetic nervous system, the “rest and digest” mode, which will calm you down. From there, you’ll be in a better place to begin organizing. 

There are numerous breathing techniques available on apps like Headspace, Calm, or Insight Timer. Below is a favorite, simple breathing exercise that works well. You can use it at any time.

4-7-8

Sit comfortably.

Close your eyes.

Breathe in slowly through your nose for the count of 4.

Hold your breath for the count of 7.

Blow out through your mouth like you’re blowing a balloon for the count of 8.

Repeat the sequence two more times.

From a place of relaxation and calm, you can mindfully choose where to start organizing. Will it be the area that bothers you the most, the stuff that will be least emotional to work on, or a space that can be edited in the 15 minutes you have available? There is no wrong place to begin. You’ve got this.

Mindfulness is a quality of being that we can bring to all aspects of our lives.
— Linda Samuels, CPO-CD®, CVPO™

4. How do I organize a room that makes me want to run the other way?

Our environment profoundly affects how we feel. The underlying premise of getting organized is creating spaces and systems that feel good and support who we are and what we do. Organizing in a room that makes you viscerally uncomfortable can be de-motivating. The good news is that you are aware of your discomfort. That’s mindfulness at work.

How can you improve the situation before organizing? Consider your senses. Can you open a window to let in the fresh air, play upbeat or soothing music, bring in additional lighting, or burn scented candles? Take a moment to notice what makes you feel good in a space. Then bring some of those elements into the room you’re working. Another option is to carry a few items or boxes that need editing out of the problematic room to another more pleasing space. 

 

5. How can I move forward when I am stuck?

One of the first phases of getting organized is editing those things that no longer serve a purpose and have overstayed their welcome. It’s also the stage that we often get stuck. Letting go and determining what to release can be tricky. However, having a list of great questions can transform you from being stuck into a mindful editing expert. Helpful questions include:

  • Do I need this?

  • Do I like this? 

  • Does it fit?

  • Can I donate, trash, or recycle it?

Discover more questions to enhance the mindful editing process at How to Embrace Decluttering Magic for a Mindful Edit Now and Exercise Your Letting Go Muscles.

There are many ways to integrate mindfulness into the organizing process. I shared several with you. Which ones resonate with you? What else have you discovered? I’d love to hear your thoughts. I invite you to join the conversation.

 
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