Sitting by the river brings me peace, energy, and connectedness. Each season feels different. With fall's arrival, the river is noticeably changed. Today the water is fierce as the waves move swiftly with a sense of purpose. The sun moves in and out behind the large, white fluffy clouds.  The clouds regulate the changing light and temperature between dark and bright, cool and warm. The wind makes the grasses and leaves rustle loudly. I'm surrounded by the intensity of movement of the water, foliage, clouds, and wind.

In experiencing this gorgeous fall day, I am noticing internal changes including thoughts about action and possibilities that mirror the landscape before me. I feel a renewed sense of urgency and direction.

What I've noticed is that several things in addition to the change of seasons, have encouraged me here. They included visiting new places, reading books, and adding a few more "yeses" to the plan. If you are feeling like it is time to be energized, perhaps one of these ideas will help you.

3 Tips to Feed the Possibilities

1. Feed the Soul - No matter how much we love our every day spaces, there is nothing quite as enervating as getting out and changing our scenery. It doesn't take much. It can be for an hour, day or longer. I recently had two, day trips that infused me with energy. I visited new places, enjoyed beautiful surroundings including the ocean and changing fall colors, and appreciated the company of special people. I returned from those days rejuvenated and ready for “next.”

2. Feed the Mind - Reading is a wonderful way to solidify ideas, stretch the mind, and stimulate possibilities. I recently finished Gretchen Rubin's new book, Happier at Home. By the way, she'll be our Ask the Expert guest featured this December. I just began reading Still Procrastinating? by Dr. Joseph Ferrari. He was one of the fabulous speakers I heard at the ICD conference in Chicago. Both books are rich with ideas that have sparked me to begin some new projects.

3. Feed the Engagements - Many of you know that I'm a huge advocate for bringing "no" back into the mix. Boundaries are important. When we over-commit, we can become resentful, overwhelmed, or both. I am very careful about choosing my "yeses." While I don't like to miss opportunities, being stressed out I enjoy even less. With this new season, I am feeling ready and open to introducing more "yeses" into my vocabulary. The openness to possibilities and opportunities fills my being with hope and excitement.

How about you? What feeds your possibilities? Come join the conversation.

In the last several months, I’ve been reading a lot on the subject of happiness. Between Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project, Dr. Martin Seligman’s book, Authentic Happiness, and the recent Real Simple magazine issue, which featured happiness articles, this topic has occupied my thoughts more than usual.

Happiness comes in many forms. Finding joy in the present as opposed to wishing for the future or the past is one avenue for happiness. I’ve been a working mom from the time our girls were young. The pull between raising a family and juggling work has always existed for me.  What helped me negotiate that challenge was learning to be present wherever I was. When I was with our girls, I was with them 100%. When I was working, I focused on that completely. In addition, I looked for small moments of joy along the way.

On my “Mommy days,” I often had to run errands and play catch-up. The girls always went with me. I treated our outings as opportunities for fun, adventure and bonding. If we were driving along and saw something beautiful or heard something funny, we noticed it together. We’d sing in the car, dance in the supermarket aisles and laugh at silly sights. It made car rides fun, shopping less mundane and helped us find the fun in very simple things. We allowed ourselves happiness breaks.

Now our girls are both in college. They are happy and working very hard. The fall semester is almost over. Our oldest daughter is feeling the time crunch for completing her projects. Sleep is something she’s not getting enough of these days because there’s so much to do. She commented to me that while she normally lives in the present and enjoys each day, right now she’s feeling a little guilty that she’s wishing the semester to be over.

I’ve experienced times that were more intense than others. There were years when my sleep was interrupted by the girls waking me up in the night. During those years, even with the lack of sleep and many demands on my time, I knew that it was temporary. In the blink of an eye, the girls would be all grown-up and self-sufficient. Free time would be something I’d have more of, eventually. I also knew that as challenging as it was, I wanted to enjoy the time, sleep deprived and all, because when it was gone, I’d miss those special years.

Happiness involves finding joy in the little things. Even when life is chaotic, the kids aren’t sleeping, work deadlines are looming and you don’t seem to have any time for yourself, there are small ways to find happy moments. Things like that first sip of morning coffee, hearing your favorite DJ on the radio, seeing gorgeous colors, laughing with your kids, slipping into your warm, cozy bed after a long day. . . these are all causes for mini-celebrations or opportunities to be grateful. It won’t matter that you have challenges if you can find small windows nestled in the chaos to stop and appreciate what’s right in front of you. Happiness options are bountiful if you allow yourself to enjoy them.

What makes you happy?